mainmbutimelinelogo-copy

Alone in a Dark Room

How do you deal with self-consciousness in public settings? As humans we are social beings who often strive to become a part of a community. The need to be social and make connections can make the appearance of being alone in public terrifying and off-putting.

12-8-16googlealoneintheater

Photo provided by Google

___________________________________________________

A few weeks ago I went to the movies by myself. Weird, right?

Now I know I am not the first person to go to the movies all by their lonesome.

According to journalist Jesse Singal in an article published on nymag.com, going to the movies alone should not be considered taboo but be embraced for the social confidence that it can instill in solo moviegoers.

“Everyone has different internal guidelines for solo outings, and these guidelines are often marked by a fair degree of irrationality.”

Most people might end up at the theater alone to pass some time or maybe they were stood up.

Luckily for me, my case was not the latter. I went alone because I felt like going. It’s as simple as that.

I really wanted popcorn and I wanted to watch a movie. There was also the dominating factor that none of my friends could join me.

Did I enjoy the movie?

I sure did.

I was able to sit wherever I wanted, I did not have to talk to anyone, I did not have to share my popcorn and I had full access to both armrests of my seat.

Not to mention that the theater was practically abandoned. I was basically the fifth wheel to two couples sitting a few rows in front of me.

Did I see anybody I knew?

Thankfully I did not, because actually I still felt extremely uncomfortable for just about the entire time I was there.  

Let’s face it, going to the movies is just about one of the most unsocial things that you can do.

You sit in a dark room and be quiet so that everyone can enjoy the movie.

But why did I feel so uncomfortable doing something that really is not a very social activity?

It seems there is an overbearing social stigma built into our brains that if we are by ourselves people will think something is wrong with us.

This idea can be easily reversed. I have thought on multiple occasions that it is sad when somebody is eating by themselves at a restaurant.

Being alone in public is foreign to me, but it really should not be frowned upon.

Over the past few months I have been trying to do more things independently.

Simple things like going to the movies or eating at a restaurant.

In a way these activities have helped me to become more confident and self-sufficient.

I am not normally the outspoken one. I often wait for others to talk.

As silly as it seems, if I go by myself, I don’t allow myself to hide behind my friends during social outings.

Doing activities I enjoy by myself helps to create confidence out of initiative.

If I continue to push myself out of my comfort zone, my feelings of self-consciousness in public places will become less noticeable.

So should you go to the movies alone? I would say yes. There is no harm in treating yourself to a good movie and delicious popcorn.

Tags: , , ,

Sierra Thompson

Sierra Thompson

Sierra Thompson is an editor for MBU Timeline. She is majoring in communication studies and minoring in business administration. Thompson is a member of the softball team at MBU. In her free time she loves to travel, watch movies and spend time with her family and friends.

@mbutimeline

MBU Timeline

RT @MBUAthletics: Who will be the Raising Cane's Athlete of the Month for November? The poll goes live Tuesday at 11 am! Vote here on twitt…

by MBU Timeline

About MBU Timeline

MBU

DID YOU KNOW?
   
Here are some interesting facts about MBU Timeline, the student newsmagazine of Missouri Baptist University, in St. Louis:
   
*Our mission statement is: MBU Timeline is the student news network of Missouri Baptist University, a private Christian university that embraces the essential core value of “social change through service and leadership.”
   
*The Bible verse that drives our mission is 2 Timothy 2:15 (Worldwide English Version): “Tell the true message in the right way.”
   
*The WordPress website has been up since late-fall 2013. We average about 3,000 sessions and about 5,000 pageviews per month.
   
*Our stories and galleries get as few as 40 or 50 hits, or as many as 8,000 hits.
   
*We have readers in every state and more than 90 countries around the world. We have several readers in South America, the United Kingdom, India and Australia.
   
*Most of our readers are in Missouri, followed by Illinois, California and Texas.
   
*We do not accept advertising as we are a not-for-profit online newsmagazine.
   
*We welcome contributors from all walks of MBU life, regardless of your major. Reach out to us on Twitter at: @mbutimeline.